I recently came back from an amazing trip in the Philippine islands and Bali.
The purpose of the trip was to visit my 91 year-old Grandmother (aka “Lola”) in Manila, but we couldn’t resist hitting a few more locations after a 16 hour flight.
We dragged Lola everywhere with us…and she kept up! Here she is killin’ a bowl of ice cream, isn’t she adorable?
I was stunned at her stamina given the many boat rides, bumpy roads, temples and islands we visited. When we finally had a respite at her home in Manila I asked her how she kept up. She said she was just having fun but felt “out of her routine.”
She was right, we totally switched things up on her. We had taken over her home, went out to eat constantly and took her to explore Asia with us!
- Bible study group every Tuesday night
- Church all afternoon every Sunday
- Weekly visits to the theater and Shangri-La hotel to watch a small orchestra play
Well here’s what’s interesting…. I dug deeper and asked my Lola about the importance of all these social events.
Turns out that my Lola actually credits her memory, upbeat attitude and stamina to staying socially active. She makes it a point to keep up with her personal connections like family, friends and neighbors especially after my Grandfather passed away. She says that it helps “keep her going.”
Well it’s pretty easy, the objective of inviting people to hang out is to get them to say “yes.”
In order to get them to do this, you have to lower the friction involved for them to commit.
You can do this by:
- Proposing a few choices for days/times/venues
- Make the venues centrally located and easy to get into (i.e. don’t invite them to a VIP club)
- Give them a reason (even if it’s a bad one) to meet up
- Keep it casual to reduce pressure
- Be cheerful (people want to hang out with fun people)
- Don’t be desperate
In the next post, I’ll share a word-for-word script I’ve personally used to make more connections when I moved to a brand new city and didn’t know anyone. I’ll also explain WHY it works.But before I do that, let me know in the comments why you think it’s important to add a few more social events on your calendar.